Ever since I heard Sia Furler sing few years back, she’s been one of my favorite musicians. She’s a very talented singer and songwriter, a quirky and unpretentious artist. And who comes up with an album title “Some People Have Real Problems” if not somebody awesome?
AND THAT VOICE!!!!!!!
One of my resolutions this year was to make room for more creativity in my life. You see, I promised myself I would be a bit selfish and put myself first for a change. And I did it by giving myself the permission to make art. Every day.
“To practice any art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow. So do it!” ~Kurt Vonnegut
Art has been my passion ever since I was a kid, but I had constantly pushed it aside as more pressing matters took over my day to day. You know, things like handling that design gig, putting dinner on the table, and putting band aids on scraped knees (sometimes all at once).
After all, who has time for making art when you’re wearing a ridiculous number of hats already, right? But consider what happens when we subscribe to the “all work and no play” attitude. Is that the life you want to live?
Frankly, I want to live a life where my focus, my attention, is on things that most closely align with who I am. And I am a creative.
“Art washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.” ~Pablo Picasso
As it turned out, the time was easier to find than I thought. It was a matter of simplifying while staying true to my top 3 priorities: family, creativity, and inner peace. For example, I deleted “Candy Crash” and replaced gained time with doodling – both were just as relaxing but only one aligned with my priorities (creativity). That got me inspired to keep going.
I was motivated enough to stay determined and not give in to binge-watching TV (mostly); this became easier (and more automatic) over time. In the end, I just had to belief that I, too, deserve to fulfill my passions (in however small steps, like a doodle a night).
Not only that, art became my therapy, my escape from the daily grind and brain chatter, my looking at the world differently, my personal walk into the abyss where I could let go of control and just be.
We mothers tend to do put others’ needs ahead of our own all the time. If left unchecked, this can leave us unfulfilled, uninspired and even resentful. But we matter too. We have our wants and needs, dreams and passions.
This year, I’m committing to being creative and making art every day, whatever form it takes. Photography, scrap booking, journaling, doodling, painting, writing… the possibilities are many. Whether I have only few minutes or are blessed with hours of time, I’m dedicated to making art every day. And since angst can lead to better art, this should be a fun ride.
How big a role does art have in your life?
Growth is as much about doing the things that work as it is about letting go of the things that don’t work.
Taking control over you life by letting go might sound counter intuitive but it actually makes sense. Letting go of the hurts, failures and missed chances of the past frees your energy so that you can focus on the now. Letting go of the things we’re supposed to do or be gives us the freedom we need to build a life we truly want. Letting go of the things that hold us back from reaching our potential and our dreams is critical.
Taking Control By Letting Go
“You want to fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” ~Toni Morrison
A while back, my friend Kerstin posted her fucket list. Last fall I had my “fuck it” moment too. It made me realize that we often stand in the way of our own happiness, and it inspired me to make some drastic changes.
Today, I no longer:
- allow others decide how I feel (or try to hide my feelings),
- ruminate (there’s no point to holding onto those negative thoughts),
- put myself last (this has already proved quite life changing),
- second guess myself (related to ruminating; learn from your mistakes, then let go),
- assume the worst (have a little bit of faith in the world, others, but especially in myself),
- multitask (like eating while reading, or cooking while helping kids with homework),
- try to be perfect (there’s no need to cook gourmet dinners 7 times a week, is there?),
- try to please everyone (that often means saying “no” to clients I don’t want to work with).
At some point, we have to realize that we have all it takes to build a rich and fulfilling life. And it starts with letting go of the things that stand in our way.
What will you stop doing?
Today marked both the beginning of a new month and first day back to school after the spring break. Double win for me! Because I was THIS close to a breaking point.
Yes, March has been a hell of a roller coaster ride (sick kids, multiple birthdays, spring break and all) but we survived; a bit scratched and bruised, but we made it through.
So, naturally, it’s time for a little gratitude post.
Finding Grace in Every Day
Today I am thankful for:
- Deciding to be a little selfish this year (putting MY oxygen mask on first)
- Countless hugs I get every day, mostly from the four man I’m currently living with
- A sweet complement from a stranger
- A book so good that few pages in I know I have to have it
- Being kissed by Kevin McKidd (in the most bizarre dream)
- No pee on the toilet for a full week (now, that’s a first!)